Amber says: I need to be fucked...

Not much needs to be said to intro this guest blog. Girls have Amber to thank...

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I finally got my computer back after a week of being held hostage at the Apple Store…since then I've been trying to write this blog just to give Anthony "something to read."….but nothing worth putting into words ever seemed to come to mind. Anyways…I'm always up for a good challenge and since I'm that Type A person that needs a plan and direction…he suggested I devote this one to sex. And then it hit me…the cause of my stress, anxiety and recent apathy is entirely related to sex…or lack thereof… It's been a minute since my last guest blog…and it's been almost as long since I've received and or provided any sexual favors. Arguably my longest dry spell since my last serious relationship some 3+ years ago…at this very moment I welcome anything resembling a "decent" fuck. The difference between this dry spell and all the others: lack of anything worth opening my legs for. I've got several girlfriends who claim to be going through the same problem…they can be placed into 2 categories: those who know what good sex is and those who don't. Or rather…those who know what they like when it comes to doing the deed and those that are just as clueless as Alicia Silverstone circa 1995. The two distinctions are essentially one in the same. The only way to know what you really like during sex is to have good sex. And good sex comes from experience. Naw…not just a lot of sex with one person…the kind of experience you get from different partners. I know this may come off as a completely transparent thought…but you'd be surprised how many girlfriends I have who have had one…at best two sexual partners (including giving D) and look at me like I'm a freak because I openly discuss sex and the need to have more….yes I meant to say need and not want. If your girl comes off like a prude and squeamish when you tell her you want to tittie fuck her and cum on her face…its probably because she hasn't been fucked right. Not to say that all women will be straightened up by a good fuck…some are and always will be a killjoy. So what makes sex good? I'm not going to even pretend to know how to define what makes it good for every woman.... because if this point hasn't been belabored enough…we are all different. And, not to mention Anthony's sex blogs did a pretty good job of breaking down each of the steps, hence I'm not even gonna try to top that. What will this blog provide…an opportunity to get a female perspective on what works and doesn't work…and what we say to each other about what you are doing in bed. Size does matter and yes we talk about it….sorry…if I can't feel it…I'd rather you not stick it in me...I'll keep it clean…but I expect you to do the same…no not like a prepubescent boy…but tidy that shit up so we aren't diving into a ball of fur while delivering fellatio. If you can't kiss…its going to be a long night. If you don't know how to kiss…find someone patient to help you learn. If you don't know if you are a good kisser…you probably aren't. Foreplay is an obvious must…this is your time to recognize the kind of mood your girl is in...and thus how you give it to her when it comes time to do the deed. BUT…don't overwork the foreplay…there is a fine line between warming us up and making us bored. Then again…if you really know how to give good head…you won't bore anyone. What works for me? I'm one of those ladies who likes a lot of action…tongue on the clit, lips and everywhere around and in-between …lets not forget about the fingers…depending on who you are and what your hands look like…one…two…but never more than that…no matter who you are. If its too much…I'll let you know. Typically, while you work the head, I'll help you out and might even do a little touching myself…breasts, nipple, even the clit depending on what position we are in. You'll know when its time for entry because if you are doing your job right…I will let you know that I want it NOW! This is usually the time where I'm just beginning to think that I can't take anymore clit action…and the kitty is wetter than an ice cube in the desert. Now…listen up…at this point you have 2 choices: go immediately for entry…or keep working that clit just a little bit longer. On any normal day, I'd say my man better do what I say when I tell him to do it…but in this case…just keep doing what your doing…I might even start to beg for you to fuck me…but will quickly back off…its at this very moment when I begin to back off that I'm about to reach my tipping point…and at this very moment you should switch positions and stick it inside me. PAUSE. This is a perfect example why its important to get your man hard and then stick the condom on prior to foreplay getting too hot and heavy. Nothing kills the feeling you have just worked so hard to build more than having to wait to feel you inside of us. If you are in the kind of "condoms are optional" relationship where this does not apply to you…great for you. If you aren't…. wrap that shit up before you have the chance to get cold.When it comes to positions…we know what we like and what will get us off….In case you are wondering… any of the positions in the cowgirl family... front, reverse, side…are a guaranteed orgasm for me…oooh…and I like it from behind…when I can watch you in the mirror…and on my stomach…legs over my head….and……….before I get too excited thinking about all the ways I'll let you twist and turn me….remember…not all of your special lady friends appreciate being folded into a pretzel during the act. But…if you want to know a secret…the same hormones released during orgasm make women a little bit stupid and a lot more agreeable to any man she is with. Make your girl cum first…and she might just let you position her any way you like it. Final thoughts… a man needs to show affection and security in the right way…but at the same time know when to turn on the bad boy gene. Change is good…stay away from any sort of routine. Music and romantic settings are not a requisite for every sexual experience…although the occasional romantic gesture is well received…the TV is NOT a substitute for music…if it's on to provide a little bit of light…fine…turn the volume down. We like a man that runs the show…but gets off when we wrestle for the remote. So… now that I've done an adequate job of reminding myself why dry spells could be the worst form of sexual torture…be like Jamie Foxx and get unpredictable.