I just want someone I can go to a baseball game and around my friends with...

Listening to my "Make Babies" playlist in honor of this blog. Currently, the tuner sits on "Find A Way" by Dwele. ... I rarely, rarely do topical blogs (I think the last one I actually remember doing was the sex blogs like five years ago when I sucked as a writer), but this was insprired by a question I was just asked by Nicole and Janelle's "roommate." ... And my answer is sure to get me some hate, but whatever. Shut up. ... The word "monogamy" basically means to have one mate/sexual partner at a time during a lifetime. Obviously, with something like this, the definition runs much deeper depending on culture, people and even households. I'm not going to claim to know about other cultures because I barely know enough to satisfy my thirst for me own, but as with every word written on this bitch, this is what I see it as being. If you disagree, feel free to comment or even write me a blog of you're own and I'll throw it up as a response. ... Open dialogue, yo. ... So what sparked this entry is a lady telling me she believes men are built differently than women ... duh. ... With that, she said monogamy isn't possible because every man will cheat, also noting that men are built differently than women. I assume that means genetically we're predisposed to cheating. ... I don't even know where to start. ... First, the New York Times Magazine just wrote a pretty interesting piece on being gay and if people are born that way, based on nature, or if it's a choice. This is an old argument, but the cat who wrote the story actually observed animals to determine if they showed gay tendencies. ... This is sort of along the same lines of what I was told about men not being able to help themselves from cheating. ... I grew up around people that cheated on girlfriends and wives. ... Family, friends, parents of friends, whoever. ... The rules of our society say you're only allowed to cum on the chest of one woman at any particular time in your life, until you cut ties with that person, you're not allowed to cum on anyone else. ... We all understand the concept. Men and women. ... I wholly disagree with men being more predisposed to cheating. I think people in general have that in them, based on nature. Animals don't stay faithful, for the most part. There are exception, I know. And I know that brain power separates us from animals, but instincts remain. ... Men cheat more, yes. At least that is what is reported. The thing is, this culture expects men to cheat - EXPECTS - so we are watched far more closely than women. When you're constantly watched and hawked, chances are much greater that a man will be caught stepping out on his girl. ... On the other end, women are not expected to cheat. They're always seen as the ones who will be faithful, so they aren't watched as close as men. Therefore, it's more difficult to find a woman cheating on her man. ... I'd say boredom is the No. 1 reason eyes stray before hands, mouths and genitals. ... Temptation is everywhere, but it's far greater for women. It's rare that a good looking man can walk into a club and can't walk 20 feet without being harassed by women. On the other hand, a good looking woman encounters that problem, especially when alcohol is involved. So this notion that the temptations for men are much greater is bullshit. Plain and simple. Temptation hits women more than men. That's not to say they act on this more often, I'm just saying it's more prevalent. ... I've made the argument on here before that men act on logic and women act on emotion. I can't stray from that now. ... Women become much more emotionaly invested in a person/man much faster than a man can. So, sometimes blindly, a woman will enter a relationship with full expectations that the man will be faithful to her and because she is soooo emotionally invested and attached, she rarely sees the temptation as anything more and probably doesn't act on it. But ... BUT ... that is because she doesn't believe her man is cheating. ... If she believes otherwise, fuck. All bets are off. She is much, much more likely to stray. ... Also, when a man is married and cheating, it's is highly likely that the woman he's fucking is either also married or KNOWS the man is married. So this high-horse shit about how men are dogs, please! Yes, men can act a fucking fool, but it always takes two and when a married man cheats, it is so difficult to hide that fact from the woman he's seeing. She knows. She just chooses not to give a flying fuck. So women are just as grimy as men. Let's not kid ourselves. ... Back to temptation and being logical. ... Men look at the woman they have and ask themselves, "am I selling myself short? Can I land something better?" ... With those thoughts can eventually come actions. Not always, but it's always at least a possibility. ... If a man has the option to explore other avenues and is unsure if they are better than the one he's currently on, he might go down it. But I don't know many guys in a relationship who would say, "Yeah, this bitch is clearly four steps below the one I have now. But I'm gonna fuck her anyway." ... It happens, but it's much more rare. Also, women are probably faced with the same situation and rarely take the bait. But again, it happens for them, too. ... I don't agree with the statement that there are more faithful women than men, either. That's dumb to believe that. ... Men might be driven to cheat because they don't have a porn star in bed or they have more attractive options. Women can cheat because of the thrill of the moment (again, emotion) or because the man is a loser or because he's not fulfilling her needs outside of the bedroom (not sending flowers, not telling her she looks pretty in that dress, not asking her how her day at work went). Men = physical. Women = emotional. ... Also, looks and sexual chemistry fade for a man much more quickly than for a woman, I think. Someone told me one time a long time ago, "Show me the finest woman in the world and I bet I can show you someone who is tired of fucking her." ... That's probably incredibly true. ... I also think that women cheat in different ways. It's not always sex. ... I think a woman is more likely, than a man I mean, to get involved in a relationship with a man that fulfills her emotional needs, not her sexual ones. Say, she might talk to someone all the time online, or thru texts. She might have luch with this guy, she might help him shop at the mall for a gift for his mom or kids. If that guys is asking all the questions and comments that she needs to feel nice, and if her current man isn't doing them, then she's going to gravitate toward that. Maybe some people don't see that as cheating. Women like to call those people "friends," which brings me back to a point I've always made on this blog: Men and women can RARELY be just "friends." If both or one is attractive, someone in that relationship will almost always say yes to an invitation into bed or into a relationship from the other. Just because it might not happen doesn't mean one or both doesn't want that. And when a friendship has that level to it, it's never a true, true friendship like a woman can have with a woman and a man with a man. ... Anyway, I'm getting off track. ... My point is a woman who chats online with a guy is still "cheating" but she's doing it in a different way. She's not getting naked or sucking anyone's cock, but she's feeling wanted and needed, something her husband/boyfriend isn't providing. But you can believe that she's not telling her man about this other dude because deep down, even if she justifies it to herself by saying she's not fucking anyone else, she knows it's wrong. ... Men, we'll take that road for a little while, but eventually, if we're making that kind of connection, we'll want it to become physical. And that's how cheating happens. It's not always going out with your boys and finding a girl down for a one-night stand. Yeah, it happens, but that's much more rare. ... Here's a scenario to think about: You're sitting in the corner of a bar. You see a married man standing at the bar with a few of his boys, maybe he'll look at a but or cleavage, but nothing serious. Nothing crazy. Then, you see a woman on the other side of the room. Also married. She's with some girlfriends having drinks and whatever women do (probably talking about men). Now, just based on that observation and nothing more, who would you say is more likely to cheat? Probably the man because why is he out at a club or bar with his boys when he has a woman at home, right? The women get a pass because it's more likely to be said that she's just out having a drink with her girls on a Friday night and she'll eventually go home to her husband as pure as when she left the house. ... I could seriously go on about this, but it's funner to talk about sex rather than monogamy. Everyone is capable of cheating, and let's leave it at that. As far as it being natural, my belief is with Christianity and our society, we're programmed to think monogamy is natural, but it's not. If it was, it wouldn't be so hard to fend off temptation for both sexes. ... Listening to So High by John Legend. ... Be cool and just don't get into a relationship if you think you might cheat. And if you wanna fuck someone else, get single first. Live by that rule and you'll be good. ... Sidenote: I won't say when this happened, but one time I was completely honest with two girls. I told one that I had something kind of popping off with another girl, but it wasn't close to serious. Then I told the other girl something similar after I met the other one. Both appreciated the honesty, they said. Then after a little time, one girl did things that pissed me off completely unrelated to the other girl or what I had told her. So she got the boot and the other one stayed around much longer and we became very cool. I learned that day that being honest actually works. I never knew that until then. I guess if you're talking to a girl and wanna mess with someone else, and you're technically single, just tell the other person.